What does it take to design and decorate your room of dreams? As a people pleaser you might hesitate to recognize you have needs. It takes a journey of a thousand hesitant steps to find your place of welcome.
Arriving at self ownership may have left a graveyard of guilt along the way. Doing “the right thing” feels comfortable, while terror lurks in abyss of uncertainty beyond. Which can translate into the smallest things. Like claiming a space of your own or putting your stamp on a room.
After moving my frozen decorator’s heart comes out of the closet. I begin to visualize, setting a timer for pulling the room together. With permission to decorate for one, I imagine what could be. What does it take to create a container for your dreams in a room?
Step 1: Take stock. Know what you have. I look at my living room. Good bones and a few pieces of furniture that make up my history. I don’t have a real couch or a table or a large budget. However paint does wonders.
Step 2: Know yourself. What type of room would connect your beauty and passion? I know myself. While I love all design styles and colors, I am most drawn to the silence in a room. I want a timeless space that is both quirky and a sanctuary. Black and white is so compelling. Exciting and timeless, a perfect match for me and this room with big windows, high ceilings and wooden floors.
Step 3: Make a list of what you need and window shop to get a feel for what you are thinking. Pause after exploring. Are you excited and committed to this journey? Can you pull it off? I go on a black and white adventure online, in shops and in print, pull out my fabrics and plot chair transformations.
Step 4: Connect the dots – Pull the pieces together in your mind or on paper. Are your ideas doable? After finding a fabric to cover my chairs, I did the math. Fabric, cost of labor, drapes, rug, couch. This transformation is way beyond my budget. What I need now is a room I can live in, that feels right and is affordable. I can make my room happen with what I have, and the idea is born. With a little elbow grease and paint my new room will be gold and white, assembled from items I already have. The only purchases needed are a white couch, curtain rods and some plants.
Step 5: Focus on getting items that need doing taken care of first. My curtains are up, I picked up the rods and hired a handyman to install them and put my grandmother’s table together. I unrolled the carpet and scrubbed the chairs, hung some art. Bought a couple cans of paint and am transforming the pieces that need painting to create a cohesive space.
Step 6: Stagger items as your budget allows. My couch is on my wishlist, as is my coffee table. Next on my list is to fill my planters and find some seats for my dining table. I dream of what I want. But I will bide my time, because although I can probably stretch to an Ikea sofa, it does not fit my vision and I am tired of settling. This ex people pleaser will live with my old wicker couch till I can buy my dream.
What about you? Is your room set up, whether living room, office or a corner somewhere? Maybe your budget runs larger than mine and your hesitation is not knowing what you want?
If you need help creating your sanctuary, let’s talk. In two hours I can give you all the answers to pull your dream room together, no matter your budget. If it is guidance you seek as you follow your heart and abandon the good girl way, I am here to support you. Or just share your thoughts in a comment below.
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