Finding Sanctuary on Independence Day

Happy Independence day! Hopefully you are planning a celebration in your own style Take time to be joyful and pause to reflect on what freedom of speech means to you  Those immigrants and Indians who battled, won and gave ground surely must have found sacred space to temper their strength and wits to birth the United States of America.  Independence takes courage, self trust and the resilience to stand alone.

Red, White and Blue Inspiration

Red, White and Blue Inspiration

Few womenfolk have sufficient brute strength or inclination to force freedom, we prefer the power of love, grace and gratitude or at least I know I do, and it can be a demanding dance to maintain balance.   Which is why boundaries are required, in a safe personal space where you can relax, reflect and refuel.  Independence needs the sustenance of solitude.

Holidays and festive weekends can be demanding. Sometimes our families create more stress than the happy scenes in our imagination.  Those same tired old fights and disagreements break out like clockwork at every get together.  So what does a freedom loving woman do?  Breathe out.  Relax your body. Find your center and your truth.  There is no need to convince or cajole.  Let the dissenter have his say to air his grievance.  Give him room to speak, and an open heart to hear his pain. Give thanks that he is safe enough to speak out, let him know he is heard, still loved and then move on.   Independence means letting go of the need to fix other people’s choices.

Fourth of July DressPut aside time for yourself to get centered before the rush begins.   How much time do you need?   Where can you go to be quiet, journal or reflect on your intentions for the day?
If you don’t have a peaceful escape, perhaps now is a good time to put a favorite chair in a secluded corner of the garden or house.  Ready your retreat for that spare moment, or overwhelm during the party, so it is an easy walk to freedom. Do you need a notebook and pen? A jug of water and a glass? A fan?  Make a list and decorate your sanctuary.

Life happens, family happens. People will always have differing opinions. If you can focus on what matters, take sanctuary when needed and resist the urge to take sides or reason with anyone, I think you will discover the sweetness of being independent on your own terms.

Outdoor Festive Hideout for Fourth of July created by Jen Duchene on Olioboard

What do you do when you feel the urge to make nice with disgruntled family members?  Do you surrender to your sacred space?  .  If you need help creating boundaries to express yourself, feel free to contact me.

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Finding Sanctuary on Independence Day — 2 Comments

  1. Hi Jen,

    I love this post and thank you for sharing it on a day of freedom. I agree that we often get caught up in our family’s stuff and forget about the actual celebration or maybe we avoid the celebration because we don’t want to be around our families.

    Today is a perfect day to remember that we are free and we can choose how we feel around our families.

  2. Lovely post Jenn!!! Perfect reminder on this special day to be thankful for the freedom we have and make space to give it to others. I believe having the freedom to be youself in all situations makes us all stronger. My serenity place is here at home quietly with my family, enjoying my hubbies wonderful cooking, playing games, stopping to relax in each others company, share stories and laugh. And my escape from daily stressors is Barton Springs Pool, a heavenly natural spring where all troubles melt away. It was and still is a sacred place the American Indians enjoyed…and its right down the street. Happy 4th!! Thank you!. Enjoy your wknd!!! xo deborah

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